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Women and the Old Boys Club
Wait, crap, now I'm doing it.
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Gaming is traditionally assumed to be a "boys thing" so when a woman sits down at the table the instant thought is either: "She's a gamer, she must be a freak" or "She's a gamer, we have something in common, I have a chance to get in her pants"
Which leads into the next assumption that gamers are socially inept or more specifically socially inept with the opposite gender (as detailed in the second line of thought that runs thru a gamer's head when a female sits down for a game).
The last assumption is gamers are unattractive/nerdy/dorks...etc. So once it is realized that an adventure in someone else's pants isn't in the cards, all the "unattractive" traits associated with gamers are applied to the female.
So I see it as a perfect storm of sorts with many assumptions colliding, and in many cases those assumptions have some truth to them which in turn creates awkwardness all around.
Now as I see it there are three ways to deal with the awkwardness:
-Do nothing and let everyone be awkward until the game is over
-Recgonizing an opportunity to improve social skills with the opposite gender and in turn work to debunk one of the assumptions
-Go back to the old ways to get everyone feeling at ease (with the excpetion of the unfortunate female to sit down at the table)
Since the first option leaves everyone awkward that isn't the best choice since everyone is unhappy with the status quo. The second option would involve work of sorts and since this is a hobby to distract you from work people don't take advantage of the situation for self improvement. The last option is the path of least resistance by allowing people to just slide back into their old ways leaving one person feeling awkward and ignore the "problem".
There's some more assumptions, but I think ultimatly it is a lack of social skills combined with no prospect of sex that creates the awkward situation.
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But now we have to watch what we say because she's here. What a drag." So I smile, and pretend that I find all of them as amusing as they think they are, indicating that I take no offense and that they are free to carry on as if I wasn't there at all. And so they do.
Your plight is not unique.
The same exact same situation happens when a lone guy sits at a table full of women. There are differences to be sure, but the experience is equally unpleasant. I long ago decided it was infinately preferable to have lunch alone in my room than to sit in the teachers lounge.
Steve"2cents"Avery
Exactly. I was going to respond to some of the other posts, by saying imagine the shoe was on the other foot, and and you were plopped down as the only man in a group of women, in an enviorment that has been traditionally only woman for a very long time.
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1. Guy who would furtively stare at his cards and sweat, and try to get a glimpse down her shirt if at all possible.
2. Guy who ramped things up to 11, talking LOUDLY, explaining EVERYTHING in the game in painstaking detail to the girl as if he's her shining knight, making loud, lame jokes, doing everything possible to look like the "alpha male" at the table. As if some girl were going to go, "Oh my god, you just told me how to purchase troops. I totally want to make out with you now."
3. Guy who literally pretended she wasn't there, and seemed angry that she was. Uba got this guy exactly right.
Every. Time.
I was the "normal" one at the table, because golly gee, I had a girlfriend, I could get dates, so I didn't see "game night" as my RARE chance to do some sort of bizarre mating ritual. My friends' wives and girlfriends have all gamed with the "larger group" and we're generally able to control ourselves. Possibly even no farting. The sacrifices we make.
In fact, I'm *worse* at an all-guy table, and have been guilty of derailing entire games because we start cracking jokes. Mostly at the expense of Steve Avery.
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Does the Old Boys Club phenomenon still arise when the woman knows all of the men? What if she's not the only woman at the table?
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1. Guy who would furtively stare at his cards and sweat, and try to get a glimpse down her shirt if at all possible.
2. Guy who ramped things up to 11, talking LOUDLY, explaining EVERYTHING in the game in painstaking detail to the girl as if he's her shining knight, making loud, lame jokes, doing everything possible to look like the "alpha male" at the table. As if some girl were going to go, "Oh my god, you just told me how to purchase troops. I totally want to make out with you now."
3. Guy who literally pretended she wasn't there, and seemed angry that she was. Uba got this guy exactly right.
Every. Time.
You're right. I've found it saves time to 1. Ask her directly to take her shirt off
and 2. Just declare yourslef alpha male and wrestle the next largest person to the ground. Then you lift the victim overhead and roar.
BTW for what its worth I think Uba does a great job of holding her own against the onslaught of the other gender.
Steve"Boobs&Bombs"Avery
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Has that pick-up line ever worked? "Send them into my pants?"
Works all the time, with the right delivery. Delivery is everything. Don't fall for these women being offended crap. They love it!!!
Nice guys finish last, they really do.
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There's one woman in our regular group who comes intermittently due to her work. She usually gives trashtalk as well as she takes it.
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Interesting.
There's one woman in our regular group who comes intermittently due to her work. She usually gives trashtalk as well as she takes it.
That is my case as well. I think Uba is just upset because it was pointed out that the first computer programmer WAS NOT a woman.
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Nice guys finish last, they really do.
fortunately, life is not a competition.
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fortunately, life is not a competition.
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I stand corrected. Now pass the Sesame chicken
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I'm not judging this behavior, or saying that guys should behave differently when women are around. It can be really rather amusing. It can even be very informative, especially when guys forget I'm there and start talking about their wives.
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